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Raised with her older brother, Gary, there were also many visits with her cousins who lived in Roanoke and Brooklyn: Ida, Sharon, Karen, who kept up relationships for their entire lives. They were a tight knit group
Evelyn, Linda’s mother, ran the tiny town’s only clothing store, “Raflo’s”. Linda often played in the store among the clothing racks, and went on purchasing trips to New York City with her mother, a delight and highlight for them both.
Frank, Linda’s father served in the Navy in World War II. Stern as befits a Judge and war veteran, he by description evidenced a strange sense of humor both Linda and one of her cousins remarked sometimes hit sideways. But he clearly loved his family, and Frank on weekends took Linda on outings to the Blue Ridge’s Peaks of Otter where he taught her to lie flat to drink from the Big Spring. Whatever the combination of factors, Linda’s upbringing engendered in her a familiarity about and for authority, and she recalled dancing impertinently but with child delight more than a few times on her father’s courtroom bench.
But Linda’s father was struck down, a debilitating stroke while Linda was in high school, and her mother for the next near-twenty years provide his total care. This set a model or template for Linda, no doubt, but a complex and mixed one.
Her familiarity and casual feelings about the law persisted so that once after meeting Paul, when she was ticketed for driving a VW bug without tags and inspection, one Paul was repairing to give as a present, she could not help giggling and laughing at the magistrate as he lectured her on her “brazen” breaking of the law – he took it well enough, and the fine was light.
Her father’s illness and debility and her mother’s total care of him for decades impacted Linda in ways one can only guess. His stroke affected his frontal lobe, and his emotional control was shot. This caused him to explode in anger when Linda (and then Paul) presented a “problem” that he couldn’t fix: which pretty well defined them and his relationship with them, and in future years when his grandson toddler Noah raced by him. Indeed, Noah took mischievous delight in how he could so easily incite his grandfather! Yet, Frank and Evelyn’s generosity and support were bedrock solid, and never wavered.
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